And anyway, hetero kids and queer/bi ones that haven’t come out to their families are also quite capable of engaging in sexual activity with peers of their own gender when the door is closed and the adults have gone to bed for the evening. These gatherings are typically more about bonding over gossip, games, junk food, and Netflix than they are about getting physical. I wouldn’t recommend denying this experience to a bisexual or gay young person just because they are known to be attracted to members of their own gender. Sleepovers for kids and teens are typically same-gendered. This may be the rare occasion that this particular child experiences what seems like an advantage on the basis of their sexual orientation, but ultimately, it’s simply a heightened expectation of responsible behavior and honesty. Alas, equity is often elusive in a world that will present challenges to your bisexual teen that their siblings simply won’t have to face. I want to first affirm your desire to support your child’s identity and your desire to be equitable in how household rules are created and enforced.
